The Pedestal | Ep.05

Theresa Lambert: 00:00:07

I believe in divine timing. I believe that the right people information, wisdom, guidance, heck things arrive when we're ready for them. I believe that owning our own truth unconditionally is the path to not only creative fulfillment, but more about success and abundance. This is not only a podcast to help you get strategic and mastered a position of success. It's a declaration to share the truth. It's a commitment to keep going to make it happen no matter what. It's an activation and invitation for me for you and for us to play a bigger game. So my question for you is this. Do you really want it? Do you really want to make your dreams come true? Do you really want to become a six figure coach? Welcome to the diaries of a six figure coach podcast, I am your host, Teresa Lambert, and I dare you to get ready to show up, boss up and make it happen.

Theresa Lambert: 00:01:01

Have you ever put somebody on a pedestal? Have you ever said to yourself, you know what somebody else is better than me? They're like, more elevated. They know more, I no less than them. Have you ever done that? Welcome back to another juicy episode of diaries of a six figure coach podcast. This is the conversation that I desired to have with you today. Why? Because in this industry, in the coaching industry, specifically, I see this all the time, within entrepreneurs within women, I see this all the time, we look at other people, we look at other things, we look at their processes, and we take them and we put them on a pedestal, we put them on a pedestal and we say what they are doing is elevate it from what I'm doing what they are having is more than what I have, what they are doing how they're showing up, is putting them on a pedestal. And by putting people on a pedestal, what we're really doing through this process, oftentimes, is that we are basically saying you're on a pedestal, and now you're better than me. And whatever it is that you say or you do your process, Trump's mind, Trump's mind. And this is an experience I just went through. That caused me to fully fall out of trust with my own process and my own way of doing things in business. And caused a bit of self sabotage in terms of how I was showing up and took me a few weeks to, to realize it and to learn it. And then last week, literally last week or two weeks ago, when you're listening to this, I had a full on breakdown about it. And I it pulled me into a massive wobble, a massive wobble around my work around my value of my work around what I was doing about my ability to create results, like it pulled me down a rabbit hole like I was in full on breakdown. And through the breakdown. And I feel like this is the process of breaking down sometimes but through this breakdown through this, this all this shit coming out. Let's call it what it is. I realized that I had placed my coaches process my coaches approach on a pedestal and said, This is better than what I do. This is more valuable than what I do. This is more, and I am less and my process is less. And I realized in my leg break through through all this, that by doing that I had taken a lot of time and capacity away to focus on my launch in a way that I had originally intended. And to be honest, there was never failed launches is always going to be a learning experience. And there's beautiful women in this space with me. But I had sabotaged my my process. I had sabotaged my progress I showed up differently than I wanted to or approach it in a different way than I wanted to. And the biggest thing for me was that I realized was that for the first time in a very long time, I felt tired. Going through a launch I felt tired and this is something like I don't teach launching in a way that makes you feel tired because the way I teach launching the way I share how to launch programs do life launches is so

Theresa Lambert: 00:04:47

it's so in alignment with how you show up into you that VT throughout that process. You really if anything should be feeling more energized and excited. So the fact that I felt tired, VD showed me that I wasn't following through my alignment that I wasn't following the way I was doing it, I was trying to integrate something new into my current launch process while being in a very important launch, really using up a lot of energy and time and capacity to do that, and so I felt tired, because the new things I was looking to integrate or trying to implement trying to use this word, it's a really good way I was trying to implement something new, it was taking me a long time, it was taking up all the space, instead of being committed to my process, my way of doing things standing strong in my power, knowing I had to still do the things and and that's what I did. And as I realized it, I just noticed for myself that that is a pattern that I had been in for a very long time. And it was a pattern to be released. And boy, was it a Viet release when I started realizing that. And the thing is, that I want to add here is that nobody's on a pedestal, they're only there, because we put them there. So what we really have to do is take them down from the pedestal, so we'll level again. And then when we're level, what we can really start to do is say we're all different, we're all unique, we all have our own processes, and systems. And they're all equally valid. All our strategies are equally valid. All the ways in which we show up in itself are equally valid, because they're valid to us. As long as they are in congruence with our own values, with our integrity with our worth, they are all valuable. So somebody else's way of doing things, somebody else's way of being in as well, somebody else's strategy, somebody else's process to launching somebody else's, anything you can think of. is it's all good.

Theresa Lambert: 00:07:10

That is their process. And it works for them. That is their strategy. And it works for them. That's their way of being and it works for them because they are being who they are meant to be. And they're showing up through the way they're doing things in alignment with who they are. So their strategies work for them. So the way they build their businesses work for them. And when it doesn't work for them anymore, they go and they get support, they hire other coaches, they do what they have got to do, to be able to refine that process, and upgrade that process and implement the systems and the strategies, for example to scale, which is the process that I am going through. So there was parts of my strategy, there was parts of ways my business systems don't the way I do things that I know, can use refinement that I can, that I can No I can make it better than it already is. So that I can scale my business from $100,000 to $500,000. That is the next milestone for me that I am moving towards that I'm working towards. But I gotta be able to have some things in place and the business structures and business practice in place to be able to do that, which is why I got support. But throughout that it was really important to understand that support hiring somebody to help you do something in your business, for example, doesn't mean that they're better than you. In this relates to anything that you do. If you hire somebody to help you with your health, or maybe you are you're helping people with their health, maybe you're a health coach, or maybe you're a mindset Cujo, confidence coach, right, like, as coaches, I don't ever see myself as better than no, or as an elevated person to my clients. I see myself as equal and I literally just brought this up in the welcome conversation in strategic because this is such an important piece for me. But we wouldn't be looking down to our clients. We really don't Yes, we we are leaders for people. Yes, we're guides who are mentors. Yes, they receive from us they receive our gifts from us. But in exchange as their guides as their mentors as their coaches we receive a monetary exchange we receive receive an energetic exchange, but beyond all that, by us sharing our gifts and our gifts being valued. We get a tremendous amount of fulfillment and joy and gratitude from the work that we do, which is priceless, priceless. But we often see our clients as equal as us yet as a client, we pedestal people, and that shows up in other areas of your life as well. So the key thing is that I want to ask you to tune into for yourself This week, is really tuning in other people in my life, other things in my life, other strategies that I've been learning, that aren't really in harmony with my process that don't feel fully aligned to, to how I desire to show up. That made me feel like this big old should. But you have decided to put it on a pad of stool and say no, but it's better, it is better than me, it is worth more worthy of more than I. So when we're pedestal in people, what we're really doing is, we can easily take a beating on our own self worth, and not really stand rooted in it. And we can devalue our own work and our own process. By creating these stories around what it means that this other strategy or this other thing works for somebody else. So when we noticed that we're doing it, we can take people down from the pedestal. And again, this is about collaboration. This is about community. This is about connection. And this is about co creation, the process of CO creating experiences, co creating results for our clients. And the co creation process, for me, is is delivered in equal parts through the energetic exchange that we share, when we're in coaching containers together when we're in a program together with our clients.

Theresa Lambert: 00:11:48

This energetic exchange is what allows us to co create is what allows us to collaborate at a higher level is what allows us to grow at a more rapid pace, and to grow our businesses at a more rapid pace. So learn to take people off the pedestal. Notice when you're doing it. And when you all hold compassion for yourself and just take them back down, and then move with that. They take them back down and then move with that. Move from the place, make decisions up from the place integrate strategies and structures and systems from a place where you see what they do as equal. And take what lands for you take what what speaks to you as something like yeah, this feels really good for me, this process works really well for me, I want to try this. Take those pieces into pieces that are like I'm feeling resistance, if you're feeling a lot of resistance, those might be pieces that need a bit of change and tweaking to make them work for you in your unique way. Or there might be things you may not be doing in your business. And then guess what, there is another strategy out there, there is another way of doing out there that can work brilliantly well as well. And this is the crazy thing about building online coaching businesses or building online businesses is that there's so many ways that work, we literally get to create the ways it gets to work we get to create the ways we build our businesses, we get to create in ways that lightens the fuck up. So learn to take people off the pedestal because putting them there is ultimately only going to do you your self worth and the value of your work harm because you're not standing fully in it. And this is a big lesson to learn because when you're standing in your worth and when you really own the value of your work, you will be able to charge more premium prices you will be able to fully stand behind the results that you're able to create which builds confidence and confidence is so important because confidence attracts and confidence magnetizing and confidence ultimately because of that sells, itself sells. So who did you put on a pedestal? Who are you willing to take off the pedestal to level with again start here dive into that because this is Sol Sol Sol Sol Sol Sol Sol Sol Sol juicy. And when we release this, there's tremendous opportunity for you to create a process that's really in alignment with with you with your strengths and with your values that works for you really, really well. So this is a wrap for another episode of diaries of a six figure coach. This is a such a juicy conversation. I feel like I might bring this up again. So Bear with me, but this is also a way of you to play a bigger game by leveling with everyone. Instead of pet of stolen people around you. You level with them, you're equal with them. This is playing bigger because you see yourself as a part of the leaders as a part of the successful people. Because you are if you're listening to this, I truly believe you are already playing a bigger game and you are already there. You might just not see it or maybe you've forgotten who the fuck you are. So I'm so excited to see what downloads for you from this. I'm going to see you again next week. I'm going to stop waffling. Now waffling is my thing. And I love you so much. It's so exciting to be finally having this podcast out in the world. And I'm just so pumped to continue to inspire you share and help you build your businesses. And I feel like the next episode we're gonna get down to business. We're gonna get down to business and I haven't fully tuned into yet what I'm going to be sharing but I might share with you how you can steal my launch process my launch plan will not be fun. Anyways Food for Thought I might change my mind and I'll see you again next week. Take care