Set The Standard And Hold Yourself To It | Ep.55

Theresa Lambert: 00:00:08

I believe in divine timing. I believe that the right people information, wisdom, guidance, heck things arrive when we're ready for them. I believe that owning our own truth unconditionally is the path to not only creative fulfillment, but mobile success and abundance. This is not only a podcast to help you get strategic and master the position of success. It's a declaration to share the truth. It's a commitment to keep going to make it happen no matter what. It's an activation and invitation for me for you and for us to play a bigger game. So my question for you is this? Do you really want it? Do you really want to make your dreams come true? Do you really want to become a six figure Coach, welcome to the diaries of a six figure coach podcast, I am your host, Theresa Lambert, and I dare you to get ready to show up boss up and make it happen.

Theresa Lambert: 00:01:01

I think one of the easiest things to do is to say that we're going to do something, or to say that we want something, whether that's in our business, or in our personal relationships, or in our life, and then not follow through and doing it. It is so easy to be out of integrity, with our own words. It's so easy. Because the reality is, that is a standard that you set. And not holding yourself to that standard. Sometimes feels easier. It feels easier, even though it's not actually helping you achieve your goals, or actually create the life that you want, or build a business that you want or have the supportive loving relationship that you want. Somehow, so many of us are stuck in the perpetual cycle of saying all the things that we want, and that we're going to do. And then we just don't do it. We just don't do it, we fuck around. And we waste quite frankly, a lot of time doing that contemplating and thought, oh, that's what I want. This is what I want. This is what I'm going to do. And we come up with all these ideas. And then we never follow through. It's kind of insanity. And it's literally the definition because we keep doing the same thing over and over. And we expect different results. Yet we never really move forward. And it's a frustrating place to be. And I had this conversation this morning with my soul sister, and we were talking about that. And she said to me, you know, one thing about you is that you really put your money where your mouth is if you say that you do something like you show up and do it, he was no fucking around. There's not asking again, it's like if you say you're gonna do something, you do it, you follow through on it. And I know that there has been times in my life and areas of my life and business where in the past, I haven't done that. Where I said I wanted something or I said I was going to do something and then I didn't do it. And the more I did that the more resistance I created a no more it slowed down my ability to grow both personally and professionally. And I think in the last 14 months, I really got over that. I really got over that. And I said to myself, I am done fucking around. I am done saying that I'm going to do something and then not do it. And throughout this time, a lot of shits gone wrong. Like it's not been through the bug, but somehow I continued to pursue my vision. I held the course I helped to energy and here I am tuning in from my dream apartment, a place that literally if you would to read what I wrote down at the beginning of the year about the environment I want to live in the space I want to live in it is it to a tee it's unbelievable. But it required Need to take the actions and do the things and show up for the things that I said I was going to do. That I said I was going to do, and what I was creating. And it really came down to a very simple thing. I decided that I have a certain standard. And I hold myself to that standard, I'm in integrity with that standard, and it is scary as hell. It is scary as hell and I continue to look at my life and every single area and say, is that an integrity? Is that in line with a standard that I'm setting? Or is it time to declare a new standard and hold myself to it? So it's in alignment with what I want. So the actions I take are moving me towards what I want, instead of saying, This is what I want. And then I'm doing something different? Because again, it's actually easy. And why is it so easy, because by saying that, we want something but then not taking the action to make it happen. We are actually trying to protect ourselves through this procrastination from the disappointment of not being able to make it happen. So we self sabotage by not taking the action and not holding ourselves to the standard, because then we're not going to be disappointed, not actually consciously realizing that we're actually living within the disappointment that we don't want to experience. It's ridiculous. It's kind of crazy when you think about it, but that is what keeps happening. That is what keeps happening. And so for myself, I started to get really clear, what are the standards that I'm having. And one of them a really big one is, I no longer willing to fuck around, I no longer willing to waste time and procrastinate around doing the things that I know will help me get to what I want to do the things that I know, move me into the direction of creating the fucking lit up free spacious, beautiful, abundant life and business that I want to take the actions that support me to fill every single spot into my strategic mastermind. I have said, I'm gonna do it. And I'm gonna do it. That's it. That's the standard and along with the standard has also come this desire to work with entrepreneurs, that are ready to be at that level of standard that are ready to say, yeah, if I am saying, I'm going to scale my business to six figures, I'm going to show up and take the actions that are required to be able to do that I'm gonna put myself out there, and I'm willing to show up and share my message. So it gets to connect with the people that need to hear it. So I get to fill my programs and services, and I'm going to make it happen. Even if I shake in my boots, even if it's scary as fuck, even if I might be rejected, even if I hear more nose than yeses. Even if people misunderstand me, even if I don't get it right. Even if I look like a fool doing it. I'm going to do it. Because there's always only two options, when you actually start to move, it's either gonna work or it's not. But if you don't move, there's only a one way which is never going to happen. So what is the standard that you want to set for yourself? What's the standards that you're going to start for who you're going to work with and your clients? And are you willing to say no, to the people that don't fit that. And that is where I'm at. And that's why that fed and day dating offer that I have on and today is the final final, final final day to apply. After that it's done and I'm not sure when I'm going to do it again. If I'm going to do it again. haven't decided that yet. But the reason I'm doing it is because I want to be working with entrepreneurs that are done fucking around. I want you have a thriving, scalable business you're freaking in love with that you feel supportive in that you show up for with clients that get results. I want your clients to get results.

Theresa Lambert: 00:09:43

I want you as my client to get results. I want us to build and CO create together I want us to show up as CEOs. I want us to have a standard and hold ourselves to it. I want us to all be there with each other. We're in this together in a relationship Ship to hold space when we fall. And when we don't get it right, because this isn't about perfection. This isn't about setting the standard. And then if you make a mistake, or you drop it off, you get scared that you're gonna get judged or shamed for it not at all. Because part of the journey is also realizing when there is an area, or when you make a decision that was out of integrity with that standard, and you have to readjust, it's okay. Because within the standard that you can set can also be the standard, that if you do walk or make a move in the wrong direction, you can always make a new choice and adjust and close Correct. Again, it's being on the path. But for the most part, it's just getting really clear, what is that standard? What is the standard? Are you done fucking around? Are you ready to actually do this. And it's so empowering. When we do that, as entrepreneurs in our business, it's so empowering, also in our personal relationships. And the relationship that we have with our business is so similar to a close intimate relationship. That having the standard and holding the standard becomes really, really important and it becomes important for you.

Theresa Lambert: 00:11:33

And it can elevate you. And it can help you gain that momentum. And that momentum is so important. Because you will start to not waste time anymore, on overthinking and procrastinating and, and adjusting things and bending and doing this and doing that and all trying to make things work for everybody. When you don't want to work with everybody anyways, because you have a standard of how you work and you hold your clients to that standard, which means they have got to be willing to work at the same standard than you. And if they're not the not the clean for you. And again, that's scary. That is scary as hell. But ultimately, what is it that you want? What do you want? What's the vision? And what's the standard, you're gonna set for yourself to get there. And so one of the standards for me again, is that if I say that, I'm going to do something, I do it, no more excuses. No more excuses. If I say that, I'm going to do something, I do it. If I change my mind about doing it, I'm gonna have to have the conversation either with myself and all with whoever's involved and say, Hey, I'm no longer going to do this. And here's why. Here's why I'm no longer going to do this. And that's how I can be in integrity with my standard and with my work without forcing myself to do something I don't want to do, because maybe we've pivoted or adjusted or the vision has changed. And that happens. So hold yourself to the standard, because it's really powerful. And you're going to be starting to attract the clients that you actually want to work with. And you're going to start to create a business you actually want to have, and you're going to start to have more time and space. Because you're no longer wasting time on the shit, that doesn't matter. And instead you show up for the things that you said you would, and you drop everything else. So all there is to this is upside. And instead of sitting in your disappointment and avoiding disappointment, you're now actually working towards the things that you really want. And it might not be comfortable in the moment. But when you get there you love it. You love it. What is the standard that you're going to set in your business? You can go through all the areas in your business, what's the standard for your mentorship? What's the standard for your clients? What's the standard and how you're showing up? What's the standard and how you're sharing? What's the standard for you as a C E. O? What are your rhythms? And I'm going to dive into that in a new episode. But what is the standard for you? And are you willing to start actually holding yourself to that standard and stop fucking around wasting time? That's how I'll leave you with today. I can't wait to hear that resonated. Share it tag me on social media at Teresa Lambert coaching. And I'm excited to be tuning in again with more juicy episodes. And a lot of gifts are going to come up. And we're going to dive into the stories of entrepreneurship, what it's like what it takes the smoke and mirrors the challenges. So we can have real fucking conversations. Yeah, and we can set the standard. We can set the standard. And we can be open with what that is. And my standard is authenticity, transparency, and fucking showing up and doing the things you say you want. And you're going to do so you can get yourself to where you want to go. And I hold myself to that standard. And that is the standard I expect from my clients. And if you're in my world, and you hold yourself to that standard, holy shit Do we ever have, and that's what I'm here for. in all areas. I love you so much. And I cannot wait to be back. This is for another episode of The diaries of a six figure coach podcast, you all rock and I will see you next Tuesday.